By Shawn Mitchell Jan. In person, though, well, you might never know about those aspects of me.
This awkward version of a man is not uncommon. There's a battle waging inside of us that we just can't win. There are several of us hiding in the shadows of our best alpha male friends. How does that self-pity taste? Salty, my friends.
Here are 12 very transparent reasons why we are afraid to take that next step with women: The non-existent sixth sense We can sense the outcome of what will happen, and we run away from that happening. Our friends will call it a wide array of things — lack of self-esteem, being too shy, no initiative, etc.
But, the one thing I have noticed is that we believe we have a better idea of the social nature between man and woman. Therefore, we understand the girl in front of us will not be interested.
So, we are entirely too self-conscious of our appearances. Whether it be height, weight, skin or anything else, these materialistic elements play huge roles in the first impressions we give to women.
No empowerment The reason why we excel at work but not in talking to women is because our jobs empower us. I work in customer service, for instance.
If you come to me, then you need something; therefore, you wwants me the power to control the situation. In social environments, such as bars and clubs, or even in a more casual environment, we fear the unpredictability of not being able to control a situation.
We introduced ourselves or we initiated text messaging. Whl, we have no idea how to take it to that next level. Psh, good one. Too much risk We would rather take the safe bet than risk embarrassing ourselves, or if we are already friends with them, risk an otherwise acceptable relationship.
Is it a date or not? Could it transpire into being one?
Or, is it sarcastic? Or, is it just a stupid winky face?
Do these Facebook likes add up to anything? We ambush ourselves with questions by trying to analyze situations that may or may not exist. Overthink the situation In the midst of trying to analyze the situation and get a read on the girl, we tend to delve too much into the infinite possibilities.
They believe that if she's not into you, the hell with her. Well, on paper it might be that simple, but all of these different variables have created a huge hole of self-confidence.
So, to that end, here are some quick tips for potential success: Recruit your friends to help you find the princess As juvenile as it may be, you have to start somewhere. Be patient Your friends and family will continue to badger you ony you finally settle down.
None of her friends have ever hit me up. Get with the modern-day technology Websites like OkCupid, Match.
Ultimately, this has led to a lot of missed noly in my life. One day, I'll find someone or someone will find me, or better yet, we'll find each other.