By Courtney Brunson Feb.
They never even get close to getting the girl. Their text messages are left unread, their DMs are unopened, and the girl they just bought an expensive dinner for has seemingly passed onto the Great Beyond and ghosted them.
They just sit there. It has to be aldies blow to the ego when you really like someone, but every action you make in an attempt to have that feeling reciprocated pushes her away. Well…kind of.
After all, men and women have the same end goal -- we just prefer different deliveries. Say you meet a girl and take her out to dinner.
The next day, she texts you thanking you for tine a great time, asks how your day is going, maybe sends over a thoughtful article on topic with the intelligent discussion you had over dessert. OK, now picture another girl.
This one could even be hotter than the last. Her ass is huge. Where do you see yourself in five years?
Is it with me? And our children?
Remember this feeling, because this is how women feel when you shower us with attention too early in the game. That stomach churning feeling I mentioned is how we feel when a nice guy invests too much too soon.
What women find creepy and intrusive could seem sweet and innocent from the male perspective, and it is vital to understand the difference. You know only two tet -- what she wants you to know, and whether you would put your dick in her.
Just like the girl sending monogrammed baby clothes, you ladiex erased any sense of urgency from the potential relationship with your early investment. Even though you just want her to like you, you are now considered goox available. As women, we are fully aware that we have done nothing at this point to warrant your loyalty or admiration besides sit there and not be horrible.
Finally, a man who sees me! They would attempt to monopolize my free time by asking to see me on every day off, which would potentially take away from time spent with my friends and family.
For my sanity I need time for girl-only nights, to work out, clean my apartment and, honestly, just spend some days alone to recharge and watch alien documentaries. She probably has stuff to amy, and until she is your girlfriend, you should assume there are other guys on the table as well. We rarely settle down with these guys.
Stop trying to woo her, stop trying to create a fairy tale. All you have to do is relax and spend the majority of your time focusing on creating a fulfilling life for yourself that will attract other people by default.
Hang out with your friends, volunteer, and get some work done. You should genuinely be busy with work or your other hobbies and obligations.
Then, when you are free, ask her on a nice date and take your time getting to know her. Treat her well. She will find you more attractive for having a well-rounded lifestyle, and the time you do fot together will not be taken for granted.
Live with the vibe that you are a fun, successful and well-liked person, and you will continue to be that person with or without a girlfriend. We value men with busy and dynamic lives, and we love that when they are available, they CHOOSE to spend some of that free time with us. Or, they bring us along for the fun things they already have planned and share what keeps them feeling fulfilled.
That is what makes us feel special. Nice guys want to be nice -- I truly believe that. If you abstain from sabotaging a potential relationship with an overabundance of attention too soon, you tims give her a chance to really digest what you have to offer and whether or not you would fit well together.